Welcome to my blog! For my first entry I’m going to write about
Taylor Swift. No wait! Don’t go! I promise it’ll be virtually painless. Plus
don’t you want to know how I’m going to tie-in my boyfriend who is a major
rock/metal fan with Taylor Swift?
I never was a fan of Miss Swift and her music, and truthfully I’m
still not. Sure her songs are a little catchy and at times I find myself
singing along to them but I got tired of the fact that the songs she writes are
of heartache and boyfriends who are ‘mean’ or ‘trouble’ etc., etc., to the
point I kept thinking ‘what is wrong with her?’ I told myself how obvious it
was that there had to be something wrong with Taylor Swift as she’s the common
denominator of all her failed relationships.
Then I stopped myself short. Why did I think that way? I’ve told
my friends over and over that they should never just ‘settle’ for whoever is
convenient, that if there are certain standards they want then that’s who they
should strive to get. That when you find the person you are meant to be with
all their effort will be worth it. To never short-change themselves nor think
that second-best is good enough. It is not. Yet I can’t think a stranger like
Taylor Swift should feel the same way? What kind of hypocrite does that make
me?
Miss Swift is in her mid-twenties and has her whole life ahead
of her. So what if she’s stumbling around trying to find her ideal man? There’s
absolutely nothing wrong with that. But I bet she isn’t stumbling. Maybe,
despite her age, she knows exactly what she wants and instead of just falling
for just anyone or staying with someone that may look good for publicity she is
being particular about who she wants in her life. I don’t know what the traits
she wants in a significant other are, and quite honestly I don’t want or need
to know. What I do know is that her standards are not any better or worse than
mine or any other woman’s. They are just different. And again, nothing wrong
with that.
(And just a quick aside: I don’t think it’s any of the men’s
fault either. Something I’ll get into in another blog. They were just not the
right guy for her.)
My Love jokes that I lowered my standards when I got together
with him, when in fact, it’s the total opposite. Before I met him, I wondered
many many times if I was reaching for the impossible. That my standards were
much too high and that I should not expect for all of them to be met. While I
was not looking for the perfect man, I wanted a man who was perfect for me.
Now here would be where I would have listed all the traits that
I’ve been so lucky to get in my guy, both in the physical sense and personality
wise; however I’m refraining because a)My Love would roll his eyes and tell me
that he’s not as great as I make him out to be (which would be wrong on his
part ;)) and b)What I think is important in my mate may not be what another
female wants. I will just say that it took me a very long time to find this
special man and he was so worth the wait.
If you are looking for someone to share your life with, write
your list. Figure out what’s important to you. What you can live with and what
you cannot live without. Be more like Taylor Swift and be fussy about who
deserves you and should share your life. Do not short change yourself.
Be realistic but also be completely honest with yourself and
what you want. Write your list, and then forget about it for a day or two. When
you come back to it, does your list feel complete? Or is there something
nagging at you from somewhere in the back of your mind, something you don't
like admitting you need? One trait I think should be on everyone’s list is vulnerability.
Not only for your perfect someone but for yourself as well. After all, to be
vulnerable you must trust in your mate and have faith in him/her; that is the
foundation on which true love is built.
Is there something similar that should be on your list?
Now I’ve been told to ask a thought-provoking questions at the
end of every blog so I’d like to know the following: For those that have met
their true loves, what was that one thing that was on your list to make you go,
‘yes that person is THE ONE’? And for those that are still looking I’d like to
know that one trait that would be a deal-breaker for you? Or if you’re not
looking for a special someone at this point in time, what would you tell those
that are seeking love?
I hope you enjoyed my very first blog. I’m aiming to blog about
two or three times a week and talk about a few truths about myself and my view
of the world around me. I promised my Love that he won’t be in every blog
(though I did threaten to do another blog titled ‘365 Days of Cameron’ but he’s
lucky I’m a procrastinator lol) but if I’m blogging about myself, since he’s a
significant part of my life then yes, sometimes I will be talking about him. The
poor man lol.
Looking forward to taking this journey with you all.
‘til next time,
Jacs xx
